In light of this recent Match.com article, “Signs She’s Seriously Smitten with you” with a Top 10 non-verbal cues that women do to show if they’re interested in a man.
Well, since these signs are usually fairly obvious, with hair flipping and gazing longingly into your eyes; I think you guys would benefit on how women show they’re NOT into you. Since, well, some guys still persist in pursuing a girl when she feels she’s given you all the signs she’s not interested, here’s a clear guide if you can’t read the signs.
#1: She crosses her arms, legs, looks away from you or has her body facing away from you
Hate to break it to ya, but if it looks like she physically is repulsed by you, can’t make eye contact and is trying to look for someone else to start talking to, she’s not into you.
#2: She doesn’t laugh at anything you say
You know, the funny thing about liking a guy, is that even when he makes a bad joke, a girl is still going to laugh. It’s weird, as girls, we’ll start laughing loudly at the easiest of puns, and the most common jokes, like the guy is Aziz Ansari. A girl shows initial interest in a guy by finding everything he says funny. So, if she’s not laughing at anything… well, you know.
#3: She becomes quiet or starts talking to someone else
If you find it hard to start a dialogue with her and you’re asking all the questions and she’s responding with one word short answers and not asking you questions back, she’s not feeling it. She may also start talking to someone else and start avoiding you. She may start looking around the room to find someone, anyone else to talk to. Her eyes will dart around trying to find hope that she doesn’t have to endure a second longer with you. Nope, doesn’t mean she’s shy, she’s just not interested in you.
#4: She tells you she’s busy- ALL the time
If you’re trying to meet up with her and she always says she’s busy, without offering an alternate available date, she’s trying to be kind to you, by not flat out telling you she will see you– never! A girl who’s interested will make time for you within the week. At least! If she doesn’t make any time, not withstanding an impending wedding or final exam week, she’s going to always be busy. Always.
#5: You try dancing with her, and all of a sudden, she turns into a lesbian!
You see a cute girl, you start grinding. You’re hot… kinda. And then she notices you, and rushes straight to her girlfriends and starts jumping all over them furiously. This doesn’t mean she’s a lesbian-werewolf all of a sudden. It means she’ll do anything to get away from you. So, leave her alone already.
#6: She doesn’t ask any questions about you
She doesn’t care about getting to know you. No questions, she may blab about herself, but shows no interest in who you are… which is saying she has no interest in you.
#7: She talks about other guys around you
A girl wouldn’t want you to feel like you need to compete with all these other guys that she likes. She won’t talk about how hot Leo was in The Great Gatbsy, or her crush on Charlie Hunam. Or talk about all the guys she’s dating. She wouldn’t want you to get the wrong impression… that she doesn’t like you.
#8: She doesn’t look you in the eye
If she likes you, she’s going to want to look into your beautiful eyes. But if you get the feeling she’s just trying to look around you and avoids your gaze whenever you look at her… she’s either stupid shy, or just not into you. And I doubt the shy thing unless you’re in middle school… and if you’re in middle school, you’re too young to date! Wait until high school!
#9: She only hangs out with you in groups
She’s down to hang out, with several other people around. She’ll go to the movie, bars, clubs, with lots of other people besides yourself. But when you suggest a romantic dinner for two… she changes it to a party of 10. Yeah, she doesn’t want to be alone with you, sorry.
#10: She tells you she doesn’t want to date anyone right now
Women who say they gotta focus on their career/school/life and can’t be in a relationship right now, means they don’t want a relationship with you. You may think she’s playing hard to get or has other things in her life, but honestly, most girls would love to be seeing a guy after working hard all day. You’re just not the one she wants to relax with.
That’s it! I hope this list makes things crystal clear for you, and if not, write down in the comments what you think.