Compliment HER!!! 5 Rules for Complimenting your Date

Hello Gentlemen,

Long time no see! Valentine’s Day is coming up and I thought I’d dole out some more handy advice for you daters out there.

I would like to talk about the art of “the compliment”. Really, I think this deserves its own blog post because it is THAT important.

In the past, I remember dates and boyfriends that I had that couldn’t compliment worth a damn. They had no clue how to be around a girl and respectfully give a girl the compliment she deserves.

Because frankly, she DOES deserve at least ONE compliment if you’re dating her.

For example, I dated a guy back in the day that NEVER complimented me. Not even once! Probably dated for like a month and a half and it fizzled quickly. I felt like I couldn’t really be myself around him. I even would dress up even more, JUST so he could compliment me. I remember meeting him for a date and I remember a random guy in the street stopped in his tracks and just gawked at me. I looked that brilliant that day. Seriously. And what did my date say? “Wow, you look nice?” Nope, nada, zlitch, nothing.

I was dumbfounded. I literally stopped a guy in his tracks on the way to the date (and honey, I don’t pull that stunt often) and my date had nothing to say. I might as well wore a brown bag and called it a day.

If you want your date to CONTINUE dressing up for you, doing something different with her hair, compliment her!!!

Here’s how you do it.

1. Don’t Be Sappy

Don’t say “the twinkle in your eyes brings me hope of love blossoming….” or something creepy like that. No. You’ll just accomplish making her feel super awkward because no guy has ever said anything like that to her and she’ll probably think your foreign or something.

2. Keep it short, keep it sweet

Say something like, “you look really nice today”, “your eyes are beautiful” or “you look gorgeous”. Use the G-Word sparingly though. That’s pretty much the highest compliment you can give a girl.

3. Time it Right

Compliment her at the beginning of the date when you first see her. Compliment the dress, etc. And you can compliment her once in the conversation when it feels right, or during a romantic moment, like before/after a kiss. Don’t overdo it, you’ll embarrass her.

4. DON’T make it sexual!

Unless it’s for a  booty call, then whatever. But if you want this lady to stick around, don’t compliment her butt, boobs, legs, etc. If you’ve been dating for a while, then whatever. But for a the first couple of dates, keep it classy.

5. Keep it to 1-2 compliments a date

Don’t go on and on about how wonderful she is. Keep compliments 1-2 sentences once or twice a date.

If you want a girl to stick around, compliment her, because if you don’t, she’ll think you’re not interested and she’ll start doubting your feelings for her.

Until next time!

Dating is Scary

“Men are afraid women will laugh at them.
Women are afraid men will kill them.”

The quote above, which I’m probably butchering, which I’m forgetting who said it… I believe a comedian a while ago, rings a very clear truth that men don’t think about, but is very real to women.

Women are told throughout their lives to watch out for themselves, be careful where they go and who they’re with. I know as a kid I had kidnapping nightmares after Polly Klaas was kidnapped from her own bedroom and murdered.

But dating can be a scary thing for women. Men may be afraid of looking like a fool, but women are afraid of getting hurt.

Domestic violence, killings and in other countries like China and India, being born a daughter, the more likely your chances are of dying, becoming a child bride and treated like property.

Although this dating advice in the blog is fun and quirky, what concerns me is the comments I receive, and the attitudes of men of trying to change “the game” into their advantage of “laying” women. Treating women like a puzzle that needs a code to crack isn’t what this blog is all about. If you think that women are just there for the pleasure of men, you will never find love, and you will forever be disappointed and full of disappointment, and hate.

Women are human beings and dating and being in a relationship with someone who is your equal is far better than treating a partner as a piece or property to be used, sold and destroyed.

Remember, at the end of your days, how will you remember your life? Being selfish never leads to happiness, and the only true way to happiness is helping and being of use to others. The only way. If you have a bad day, just do some volunteer work, help a kid, help someone else and you will feel so much better about yourself.

So, the world treatment of women, as things to be consumed, needs to stop. Your happiness and everyone else’s depends on it.

So, next time you take some dating advice, remember, it is advice and not a game. Remember that women are not codes to be cracked, as you’re not a puzzle to be solved. Finding someone who cares about you for you and vice versa will be much more rewarding in the long run.

Thanks, gentlemen.