I just came across some dating advice, that, for the lack of a better word, I found dismaying. BroBible.com (I know, it’s like the blind leading the blind…) was giving advice to men about 5 times you need to call the girl . Besides some of these things being blatantly obvious, like calling on holidays… the tone of this article is creepy. It’s almost an article for guys that are dating their f*** buddy, and need to make the obligatory call to keep her on the line.
If you HATE picking up the phone to call someone you’re dating, then why in the hell are you dating her? You should be with someone you love to talk to. If you replace all communication with a girl with texting… then why even bother?
I really don’t like this attitude from men I see in the media that women are these bothersome, annoying, emotional, crazy things that men can’t stand to talk to. Let me put it to you this way, if you think the girl you’re dating is crazy and can’t stand her you could be:
1) Totally right, she’s bonkers, she has tattoos on her eyebrows and refers to herself in the third person while talking with her imaginary pony. She’s certifiably crazy.
2) You’re having trouble relating to girls and would rather label her “crazy” than to learn how girls are. Instead of trying to understand her point of view, you rather only see everything from your perspective and put her down.
Women KNOW how men are. Through media, movies, EVERYTHING out there teaches women what men are like. But there is barely any representation of what women are like besides being the Lois or Meg of Family Guy (oh, I’m finally going there). Lois is the woman you want to marry, the partner, the sex kitten of your dreams. Meg is the sister. The girl you’re not attracted to at all, and you know what that means? If you’re not attracted to her and she isn’t a man, you have no interest at all in caring who she is, so you make fun of her and treat her less than human, because if she isn’t a man and isn’t attractive, why is she here?
What I’m trying to get at, is that, yes guys, you need to try a little harder to UNDERSTAND women. And what I’m also trying to say is if you assume all girls are crazy and you can’t date anyone sane, then you have to treat her like a thing to keep her “interested” until you’re ready to let her go… why are you bothering at all?
Like, seriously, just wait for the right person to come by that is totally amazing and gets you than to settle with crazy girl that you don’t even like talking on the phone with.
So, what it all comes down to is this, if you don’t like the girl you’re dating enough to call her JUST BECAUSE, then it’s time you start dating someone else, because honey, you’re settling and you’ll never be happy. You’ll be a lot happier finding another girl you like calling. So, don’t waste her time sticking around and don’t waste your time just because you want a bedfellow.
Life is too short to play those stupid games. And besides, every moment you waste with “crazy girl you don’t even like” is another minute wasted where you could be finding “the most amazing girl ever”.